Why I Think Valentine Is All Hype

Dear abydarl,

I read your last article and I enjoyed the way you write. That is why I decided to write to you about valentine. Feel free to publish it if it meets your specs.

Valentine’s Day is just another opportunity for people to groove. Nothing more, nothing less. If we Nigerians had our way, we’d declare February 14^th a public holiday. Hehehehehe! The sad thing about that day is how both the men and women have become cultured to view the so-called day of love as a messing-around day.

My word to other young ladies out there is that they should gird their womanhood with pride and not to lose themselves to the euphoria of celebrating a love that does not exist. You may ask what moral right I have to make such assertions. Well, none maybe, but I have a shattered heart and broken dreams to show for my years of foolishness.

When you begin making excuses for his short-comings, babes, you’ve got it so bad! Be the lady that you admire in other people and one cute way to achieve that is to refuse to be taken for granted. Carry your self-esteem like a purse and never leave it at home on your way out before, during and after the valentine.

What does that mean? Try not to succumb to any pressure because you want to impress any guy or make him love you more and more important, because you want to make him happy. Forget it! He won’t be disappointed if he doesn’t have his way. He’ll only be pissed that you gave in so easily. 

And yes! I think Valentine’s Day is all hype because the ‘love’ shown on that day is like tassels that disperse in the wind. And I hope that like last year, it rains bucketfuls this Valentine. Statistically, 90 per cent of relationships forged for Val reasons fall on the rocks in less than one month afterwards. So why bother? Except of course you want to give as good as you get – meaning, you are in it for yourself and not because one lovey-dovey boy wants you in. in that case, please be my guest and have a blast.

Blessing

P.S

This submission is for teens and young ones who are still malleable and not the big aunties that are as guilty as the men that prey on women during the valentine season.

 Blessing

 

The writer’s views are respected. Young people are hoodwinked into casual sex in the hopes that they can forge strong relationships. The writer feels that such affairs seldom have happy endings. You are at liberty to form yours. Happy valentine!

xoxo

abydarl